The book that everyone is talking about –
the story by E. L. James
is the first book in the series which recounts the deepening relationship
between a college graduate and a young businessman Christian Grey.
In the book, Anastasia
Steele is required to sign a contract that allows Grey to have complete control
of her life which included fulfilling any desires Grey had in the bedroom.
So we decided to do our bit and help the
guys out there with their performance in the bedroom and give you our 50 ways
to keep up with 50 shades...
Now we’re not claiming to be Casa Nova’s in
the bedroom (we let the ladies talk about that!) The idea of this article is to
give you some quick and simple ideas to prevent your performance from being a
quick and simple one ;-)
So let’s get to work...
1. Exercise –
The answer to all of life’s problems! Move more to look better, feel better, be
better and perform better! But what form of exercise should you do?
2. Strength
training is top of the list. A strong body is sexy, masculine and enables you
do to more than with an average physique.
3. Core
Training – All movements begin from the core it’s the foundation upon which
everything in your body depends. A strong core = a strong body.
4. Strengthen
the Glutes – There’s nothing worse than whipping of underwear to reveal a saggy
behind. We spend so much of our lives sat down that most people have no
activation through their glutes causing pain, dysfunction and not a pretty
site. Check out our simple Glute exercises to create those buns of steel!
5. Cardiovascular
fitness – Don’t be a two minute wonder! Whilst your lover does want to hear you panting and heavy breathing, she doesn’t want a heart attack on her
hands! Improve your cardiovascular fitness and be a marathon man between the
sheets.
6. Balance –
essential for performance and one of the first things to decline due to aging!
Combined with all of the other elements of health and fitness detailed here
good balance will provide you with a greater repertoire of moves in the
bedroom!
7. Agility – This isn’t just a category at Crufts
dog show; Agility is the ability to change the direction of the body in an
efficient and effective manner, essential for
great bedroom fitness!
8. Good
Flexibility. We may want some things to be stiff, but not everything! Short
tight muscles give the appearance of a muscular physique, but long lean muscles
actually function in a more effective way.
9. Walk. A
forgotten movement in the modern world. Why walk when you can take the car? Why
climb stairs when you can take the lift or the escalator? We sit on our arse
all day at work and get home and lay on the sofa all night. Get out there,
move! Improve your cardiovascular system, relax your mind, get some fresh air
and de-stress.
Carrying on from this point, the biggest
killer for most guys’ performance in the sack is the silent killer – Stress!
10. Don’t let
stress get in the way of a good erection! The torment in your head is the
biggest cause of distress down below!
12.
Meditate.
I was fortunate enough to meet Simon Frost around the time I
opened my first business in Highgate. Simon calls himself a soul coach and
basically promotes positivity. He emphasises the fact that a lot of us live our
lives either through our conditioning of the Past or fear of the future. Life
doesn’t have to be this way we can and should enjoy every moment for what it
is, (especially true in the bedroom!) stop worrying about what has happened or
what may happen and enjoy now.
Meditation teaches you to
slow things down look at your situation from a different perspective and gives
you a focus to make the right decisions going forwards.
13.
Massage.
Whether it’s for remedial or sexual purposes the power of touch cannot be
emphasised more.
14.
Go on
holiday! We live in a world where work pressures dictate that we work longer
hours, take less time off and even when we are away we’re contactable at any
time! We let our work dictate our life and mould our personality, we spend more
and more time at our desks and less and less time doing what we really love
doing and being with who we really love spending time with. Do yourself a
favour, book some time off, get plenty of sun san sea and the other and.....
15.
Get away
for the weekend. You don’t have to take a two week vacation to unwind, a dirty
weekend is enough to get you out of the routine and living more.
16.
Switch off
the mobile
17.
Your Lap
top
18.
Your
Facebook, Twitter and Linked In accounts and...
19.
Forget
about work
When you get back to work keep some of the
holiday habits going...
20.
Schedule
breaks into your day. Get out for a walk, go to the gym or just switch off for
ten minutes. It’s proven that we are much more productive when working in 90
minute blocks. Stop being busy and start being more productive.
21.
Take a
siesta. OK this might be a difficult one to run past your boss but a nap in the
afternoon is amazing for recharging and looking after your body – and even
better if you can fit in a bit of afternoon delight at the same time! ;-)
22.
Failing
that take a power nap. Twenty minutes is enough to recharge the batteries and
get you back to full function.
23.
Sleep
more. – This article may be all about
other activities in the bedroom but when you’re not on the job get some good
quality sleep – 7-8 hours every night is essential for relaxation, repair and
rejuvenation.
Eat your way sexy...
Everything that you put into your body
brings about a physical and hormonal response. Your energy levels, your mood
and your libido are all affected by the food, drink and supplements you put
into your body. Need a boost?
Supplements:
24.
L-Arginine:
An amino acid which is used by the body to make a substance that relaxes the
blood vessels which is shown to enhance sexual performance in men AND women.
25.
Ginseng:
The natural way to get Mr Floppy hard again!
26.
Maca Root : A herbaceous plant native to the high
Andes of Peru. clinical trials performed in men have shown that
maca extracts can heighten libido and improve semen quality.
27.
Zinc: A lack of dietary zinc in men is shown
to be related with a decrease in serum testosterone.
28.
Horny Goat
Weed—appropriately
nicknamed, this natural herb supports healthy sexual activity. It is also shown
to regulate the stress hormone, cortisol levels.
29.
Eat plenty
of nuts and seeds like pumpkin seeds,
30.
Brazil
nuts and
31.
Almonds which are all rich in the amino acid arginine,
which is shown to boost levels of blood to the genitals, making them natural
Viagra.
Food:
32.
Oysters, the richest source of zinc, nourish
the prostate gland and boost testosterone production.
33.
Chocolate: The nutrient phenethylamine found in
chocolate is shown to enhance mood and is the chemical we produce in our brains
when we fall in love, the higher the cocoa content of the chocolate the better
the effect, so stick to 60-70 per cent cocoa.
34.
Apparently the smell of food gets us guys more in the
mood! The aroma of pizza, popcorn and strawberries work best according to The
Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago as they evoke the
security and pleasure of childhood. So there you are girls, we really don’t
ever grow up!
35.
Alcohol also boosts endorphins, the pleasure hormones
that help to release tension and inhibitions as well as increasing testosterone
levels. Just not too much though eh?!
36.
Make the meal a romantic occasion. Apparently any dish
can be erotic when enjoyed with sensual pleasure, according to Dr Michel Odent,
the author of The Scientification of Love. We all need substantial bursts of
the "love hormone" oxytocin to get sexually aroused – and that's less
likely to happen if his body is fizzing with stress hormones.
37.
Eat slower. Physically enjoying food quickens production
of this pulsating hormone.
A similar response
is also initiated with
38.
Dim lights (a great idea if their not the best
looking!)
39.
Listen to soft
background music.
40.
Give up the cigarettes: The plain and simple facts are
that men who smoke have a significantly increased risk of experiencing erectile
dysfunction and the more you smoke the bigger the risk.
41.
Be Confident! The brain is said to be the biggest sex
organ – so if you feel good you're more likely to get sexually aroused, and
vice versa.
42.
Live in the moment. A sudden inability to get an
erection is most likely to have a psychological background in a man: often
caused by anxiety or loss of confidence as a result of divorce, bereavement,
redundancy or a similar life event.
43.
Be Positive. A negative thinker see’s a difficulty in
every opportunity. A positive thinker sees an opportunity in every difficulty.
44.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Let
go of previous relationships. It didn’t work for whatever reason; don’t let
them hold you back from a new amazing one.
45.
Get Scared.
If it scares you it’s probably going to challenge you. Be adventurous, take a
risk, and don’t be afraid of failing, its only going to make you stronger.
46.
Plan your day. If you don’t take control of your day
someone else will. If you don’t make time for that special person in your life
someone else will!!
47.
Plan your life. If you sit around waiting for things
to happen, waiting for the right person to come along, waiting to be happy,
you’re wasting your life. Get out there make shit happen and have fun! “Failing
to plan is planning to fail!
48.
Communicate. Let others know what you want and find
out what they want. The most ridiculous thing about the modern world is that
we’ve never had more ways to communicate with one another and yet we’ve
forgotten about the basics of speaking to people.
49.
Listen.
You’ve got two ears and one mouth for a reason.
50. Be yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how do
you expect someone else to love you? Whilst writing this I started to wonder
what others might think of it when they read it and then thought – who cares! I
think it’s topical, its what I believe in and it’s a bit of fun. If you think
its rubbish or you take offence SO WHAT?!!
